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Monday, August 26, 2013
BROOOTAALLLY HONEST Part 2
Welcome back. As usual, today's entry is going to be equally as interesting as the previous one. Like I had mentioned (and even challenged) in my previous entry, the readership for my previous entry increased tremendously. Good job, ah. So all the screenshots and wailing's been done ?. See, why the need for such a contradictory behaviour ?. You claim you hate my deed and how you think my value and worth had 'depreciated' then why are you so preoccupied with my life ?. I mean your new life with your new found slippers are making you soooo happy and contented then why poke your nose into my affairs ?. See this is where I know I won. I won not because I was/am slandering my old friends behind the smokescreen but I won because I know deep down that I wasn't the only one with the so-called "immoral act". I mean if everyone is as clean as they perceive they ultimately are, then I don't think they would need to like be so updated on what I am ranting about. They need that "moral"-booster to tame their own immoral acts, don't they ? ;)
Cognitive dissonance theory - romba applicable machi
The cognitive dissonance theory states that "we feel tension (dissonance) when two simultaneously accessible thoughts or beliefs (cognition) are psychologically inconsistent" (Myers, 2013). So meaning in order to reduce that psychological discomfort, you would try to adjust your thinking. So let's say you believe in altruism and your belief in altruism is changed due to a negative incident so the cognitive dissonance itself will create that psychological discomfort in you and you would try to adjust your thinking - maybe you might settle with the thought that you might only start helping people you know very well instead of a random stranger. So another theory that I want to introduce here is - "selective exposure".
"Selective exposure" is the tendency to seek information and media that agree with one's views and to avoid dissonant information. So that perfectly explains your stand, doesn't it ?. So don't come and say you had been a well-informed person, a fair person and whatnot. Because when you do that, I would make sure I send my saliva right to your doorstep and so that you can take a nice little shower with that. See, social sciences is an interesting field because you learn how to apply whatever you have learnt from the books to real life situations. Social sciences includes specialised fields like "anthropology, economics, political science, PSYCHOLOGY, SOCIOLOGY, COUNSELLING and even the humanities like cultural studies, communication studies and etc etc. So if you're in this field and you simply cannot apply what you have ingrained from your textbooks and lectures, then the whole purpose of acquiring that education in this field is a COMPLETE WASTE. C'mon la, don't waste your education due to your air-tight hole of a brain. I mean so many other people might have missed that chance to have acquired that knowledge, man. Haiz, sometimes some people should stop wasting time doing something that they're not prepared to face up to. Tsk.
Below is an excerpt from a well-known counsellor and psychotherapist
'Prejudice is, for good or ill, a part of our nature. It is instilled in us from birth onwards. All we can hope to do is to combat it, and the first tool in our armoury must be that of awareness. Without this, it is very difficult, perhaps impossible, for the psychotherapist or counsellor to explore how it might be influencing the psychotherapy relationship.
Difference, prejudice and discrimination are issues which all counsellors and psychotherapists need to address as part of their personal and professional development. Designed to support training on these complex issues
For most therapists and counsellors an attitude of acceptance and non-judgmentalism is fundamental to their view of practice. However, in seeking to be non-judgmental, therapists may run the risk of concealing their own prejudices. It is only by facing up to these attitudes and exploring them that therapists are able to fully relate to their clients and help them effectively.
So technically, I am dead-worried for the clients. I think at the end of the day, their own problem might be maximised and they would simply lose faith in trying to forge a new life for themselves. Haiz. Sad case.
I love the message in this placard. That's exactly what I did, didn't I ?. Placed them under my fucking feet and used them as a platform to view my horizon but sadly, some people who used to call themselves as my friends decided to use it to their advantage by placing their own judgmental beliefs, prejudicial and stereotypical thoughts and decided to push me down by targeting on my character and my self-worth. Tsk tsk. So I have something to share now :)
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1) Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
Isn't that true ? So don't call yourself MY FRIEND when you know you've lost that label a long time ago. I knew who stood by me in my worst moments and I will be there for them. I'll be their bulletproof vest.
2) Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
Amen to that. It has moulded me to become a better person
3) Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.
Yes, I was honest with myself and I am so proud of it. At least it didn't take me decades to come clean with myself :)
4) Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
Yes and I guess I paid the price for it :)
5) Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you likeeveryone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
6) Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
7) Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
8) Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
EAT THAT BITCH. Seriously, EAT THAT.
9) Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
10) Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.
11) Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
MUHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.
12) Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
13) Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
14) Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
Maybe I need to internalise this :)
15) Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
16) Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
Yeap, keep your jealousy at the bay, bitch.
17) Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
Of course, I don't need people to carry my backbone for me. I can stand ALONE and do it myself :) and I don't need sympathy votes too.
18) Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
Nope, I am gonna go against this. I think 'forgiveness' is an overused word that is meant to sweep everything under the carpet. Back in the past I used to forgive easily because I had believed in this but nope, not this time. I am hard-on and am very sure this episode is a very important one that eventually changed me into who I thought I would never be.
19) Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
It's not about me meeting your standards. Your standards can anytime lose out to mine. Don't forget your own roots and where you started from. So I am not lowering to to suit your fat butt.
20) Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
Hahahahaha. True, isn't it ?
21) Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
22) Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
23) Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.
24) Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.
25) Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
26) Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
27) Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.
28) Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
29) Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
30) Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.
Last but not least, you can emulate my ways, my style, my trademark moves, my signature hobbies but you can never be me. Don't forget that. And I will never want to be someone else. I would want to be a better me. That's it.
How shit can transferred from one power arm to another.
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