"Naduvula Konjam Pakkatha Kaanom" = Friendship.


OMG, I've heard people saying that this film is so funny and etc etc but I swear I wasn't attracted to the comedy element in this film. But wow, I totally envy the friendship between the 4 guys and even more, I'm totally in love with the bond between the hero (Vijay Sethupathi aka Prem) and his bestfriend Saras. It was just too beautiful.

Basically Prem gets diagnosed with short term memory loss 2 days before his wedding and his friends, particularly his bestfriend would really be there for him throughout and get him married even before he regained his memory.

You know, Prem is really lucky to have a bestfriend who understands him so well. I mean if Saras wanted, he could have ignored Prem's dilemma and not put himself into such deep shit. But Saras had Prem's interest at heart and he really was there for Prem through thick and thin. Salutes to such a friendship. Infact I need to give salutes to the 3 friends too. I mean they could have all ignored Prem's situation due to the dire consequences but none of them left his side although Saras gave his all.

This particular dialogue really brought tears to my eyes because it showed the depth and value of Prem and Saras's friendship and so I posted it on Facebook.

This incident happened just before Prem tied the thaali on his girlfriend's neck. I mean since he had memory loss, he forgot that he actually had a girlfriend. So this is the dialogue that I totally loved. Saras kept using that particular phrase since he realised that Prem was listening to him.


Saras : Prem, Naan sonnaa kaepiyaa, maathiyaa ?


Prem: Dei, nee sonnaa building-laenthu kuthipaen maatthum illaamal, yaarunu theriyaathae ponnu kaluthulaey thaali-kudae katuvaen.


I know the impact seems less severe as I type it out but watch it with the movie and you will feel it. To make things even more deep, Prem actually had this bond with Saras all because Saras helped him with his homework when they were in Primary School. It sounds so pathetic but it explains alot about the bond between friends.

See friendship isn't about promises. Friendship isn't about breaking promises. Friendship isn't about taking sides. Friendship isn't about judging another friend. Friendship isn't about money. Friendship isn't about class. Friendship isn't about having a clique. Friendship isn't about gifts. Friendship isn't about time. Friendship isn't about sex. Friendship isn't about phonecalls. Friendship isn't about examinations. Friendship isn't about distance and we can go on and on.

True friendship is all about how you as a friend fulfill your duty as a friend. If you as a so-called friend choose to believe in the opinion of just 1 friend and choose to go against the other friend, then what kind of a friend would you end up to be ?. If you as a so-called friend choose to believe in your own preconceived notions and expect your so-called friend to abide by your own principles and values, then what kind of a friend do you make ?. If you as a so-called friend choose to have friends who belong to a certain cast then what kind of a friend would you make ?. If you as a so-called friend choose to listen to the rumours, then what kind of a friend would you make ?.

To be honest, friendship comes without an expectation. Having good communication, being transparent, showering a friend with money and gifts tends to strength a friendship. But the true test of a friend comes when his/her notions are challenged. A true test of a friendship comes when a friend is in need. A friend who never leaves a friend's side will always be placed at a pedestal. Friends are people who we choose. We have the liberty to choose and we can elevate or demote them accordingly. Trust me, anyone can have a million of friends from all around. But there are always only a few people with whom he/she would have a certain bond. But on the other side of an argument people would say that you can always buy friendship with money - I don't know about that notion. I don't really know. I haven't seen it with my own eyes and so I cannot comment on that. A bond that establishes between a friend is as pure and as unblemished as it can be. You can even compare it to the sanctity of the umbilical cord between a mother and a child. Like the mother creates this bond with the child with no expectation, right ?. I mean I haven't seen a mother who goes like "Oh yes, my son/daughter is going to be the next USA president and so I need to have a bond with him/her now". It happens without an expectation and so, a bond with a friend happens that way too - with no expectation. I mean I haven't seen someone who goes to one person with the intention like "ok, I need to be his friend today because tomorrow he will strike the jackpot and he would pass me $ 900 000". Some may do that. Some may establish friendships with a friend due to such ill intentions but do they create a special bond with one another at the end of the day ?. I wonder.

We shouldn't harp about the strength of a bond when we know that it wasn't created in the first place. I don't think a bond that establishes between a friend disappears that easily. Time and tide can strain it but I don't think it would cause the bond to disappear. We shouldn't shamelessly go around telling others how much we loved our friends when deep down, we know we would leave their side in distress or judge their actions with a certain expectation that derives from thy mind. Yes/no ?. Also, taking sides without a clear perception of what a situation might call for - how does it even explain about the bond ?. When you take sides, it already shows or rather reveals what you want your heart to resonate with. When you take sides, it already reveals that you only heard the voice that was nearest to you. So how does it even explain about the bond that you so-call talk about ?. See we all know what friendship entails but too often, people choose to show the upperhand of their biasness. We all have a certain bias towards a varying group of individuals. No matter how neutral we try to be, we would always be bias and examples prove it. They certainly do. So at this juncture, what bond were we talking about ?.

It's just very simple. Yes-bond. No-bond. No in-betweens. When there is no-bond, we shouldn't say it was a yes-bond or trying to be a yes-bond. Makes sense ?

Vithiya 'Vitz'

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